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A sincere and honest move can cover
dozens of dishonest ones. Even the most suspicious people lose their guard when
they get open-hearted gestures of generosity and honesty. If your selective
honesty can open a hole in their armor, then you can only get through them at
any time, when you give them a timely gift, a Trojan horse, which can serve
such a purpose.
Everyone loves kind gestures. It
seems everyone has a price after all. With a good gesture of generosity or
honesty, even the most brutal and cynical beasts can be tamed. When you
try to deceive, it means you want to distract. When you distract the people you
want to sway, you get enough time and space to do what they cant observe. Any
act of kindness, honesty, or generosity is the best form of distraction, and it
can make people lose guard. It turns them into children waiting to lap.
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As known
in ancient China, this was called ‘giving before you take’. This kind of
giving makes it quite hard for the one receiving to see through it. When you
take things from people, you exposing yourself to danger. Also, hardly ask,
because when you do, the giver might feel bad about neediness. In life, always
learn to give before you take. This softens the ground, creates a distraction,
and prepares you for a future request. Your giving can be a kind favor, a
generous act, or even a gift.
Selective honesty is best applied on
the first encounter with people. We all are creatures of habit, and the first
impressions last long. At the start of a relationship, if some thinks you are
honest, then it would take a lot of effort to make them think otherwise. Also,
just a single act of honesty may not be enough. What we need is a reputation
for honesty, a continuous act of doing good. Once we can establish our
reputation, just like the first impression, it can hardly be erased.
Honesty is a good way to make people
like us. Also, selfless acts, noble gestures are good. Only a few people can
resist a gift, even from the worst enemy, and that’s how people easily get
through us. When we collect gifts, we become children and lose our guards.
While we think people often give us gifts with no intentions, we hardly pay
attention to the Machiavellian element of gifts, whereby there are ulterior
motives behind the gifts. A gift is a perfect avenue to hide a deceptive move.
The Trojan Horse is a beautiful gift that is irresistible by the receiver,
where guile is hidden. Once the walls open, it starts wreaking havoc.
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With selective kindness, you can
break down even the strongest enemies. When you aim for the heart, it
bars the enemy from fighting back. According to Han-fei-tzu, ‘when you are
about to take, you should give’. Be quite wary of the gifts you collect
from people. While some have good intentions, some are embedded with nails,
spikes, bitterness. Always return good gestures. It makes the giver also wary,
and tend to know that you understand his game.
In another
case, when you are generally known for deceit, there may not be any amount of
generosity or honesty or kindness that can erase such memory. People become
more sensitive and careful of you. Once people see you as deceitful, acting
honest suddenly calls for suspicion. So if you are currently dishonest, it
is time to stop.
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